Archive for March, 2008

28
Mar

The Fairy Pantry

Topher goes to elaborate lengths to intrigue Thumbelina about the antics of her stuffed Barney friends. Last night, Thumbelina and I were making homemade pizza at the kitchen island, with her standing on a chair pulled up next to me. He snuck into the kitchen, dashed into the pantry and stood with the door cracked open and Baby Bop positioned in his hand, peeking around the corner - waiting for Thumbelina to notice. Her surprised gasp alerted me that yet another rendition of “The Fairy Pantry” was about to commence.

She watches raptly as Baby Bop sneaks a bite of coveted chocolate, shakes her tail in hello and sings “If you’re happy and you know it,” in a familiar off-key voice. Baby Bop tends to disappear occasionally, and Thumbelina coaxes her out again with impassioned pleas. “Bop! Bop! Boooooopppppppppppp!” She always returns, happy to oblige, and Thumbelina claps with mesmerized joy to see her little friend come to life, as real as can be. (Interestingly, Thumbelina will never approach the actual pantry when Bop is out and about.)

As the minutes drag on, I eventually find a way to loudly distract Thumbelina, announcing what we’re doing in begrudging help to Topher’s hope for a clean escape from The Fairy Pantry. The moment he hears the kitchen chair squeak, he whips out from behind the door, leaps to the front entry of the kitchen doorway and picks up a prop - last night, it was a laundry basket. “Hi, girls!” he’ll say to us, and Thumbelina will turn around, brimming with news and the need to tell him immediately that her beloved Bop was RIGHT THERE, just moments ago. Topher loves the opportunity to feign shock, and he encourages Thumbelina to go check out the inside of the pantry and see who might be in there. She holds his thumb, very trustingly, and creeps quietly toward the small, darkened room, clearly wondering what she will find. Topher flips on the light and quickly - Thumbelina sees Bop, nestled in the forbidden Easter candy stash, smiling her eternal smile and ready to greet her faithful friend. Thumbelina turns to Topher, her mouth wide open and gasping, and Topher asks her how Bop got in the pantry. “Idaknow!” she says, completely intrigued and pivoting to look at me, as if for confirmation that I didn’t accidentally put Bop in the pantry. “No, sweetpea, it wasn’t Mama.” Topher smothers a laugh. The rest of the night, Thumbelina is hyped up with appreciation for Bop and gives her extra loves and heaps of affection. I think Daddy gets a few extra kisses, too.

This morning, Topher left for work before Thumbelina and I were out of bed. She asked me about Bop immediately, but being completely exhausted from her non-stop-nurse-aholic ways last night, I didn’t have much of an answer. I sleepily followed her out to the kitchen, grabbing a glass of water and somewhat involved in my own morning routine before I noticed Thumbelina standing outside the closed pantry door, poised and waiting.

“What are you doing?” I asked.

“Bop,” she said, not moving.

“Oh. Do you think Baby Bop is in there again?”

“Okay!” She got excited at me verbalizing what she was hoping, clapping her hands and gesturing for me to open the door.

We looked, but no Bop. Poor Thumbelina. She stared hopefully at the Easter candy, as if willing Baby Bop to suddenly appear. I suggested we go look in the bedroom and see if maybe she was still sleeping (since I thought I remembered a furry five-inch stuffed animal jammed into my hip from last night). But, she just looked at me with eyes beginning to look worried and eventually teared up, all the while whispering, “Bop? Bop?”

Oh, dear.

We called Daddy and I told her that he said Baby Bop would probably come out to play later tonight, since that’s when Baby Bop appeared last night. “Oh.” I’m not entirely sure she understood, but it seemed to satisfy her hope that the pantry would indeed return to more magical exploits sometime soon…

23
Mar

“what just happened!”

We have really enjoyed the great weather toward the end of this week. We hit the local playgrounds, explored some camping grounds for future use, ran around park trails and visited nurseries as I began collecting my gardening supplies. (We’re a little behind in actually starting the garden, but that’s okay. We may have to just buy transplants of all our favorites and see how that works.)

This weekend we continued our outdoor adventures, but this time Topher was with us. He and Thumbelina have a cozy Saturday morning routine in place. They get up, dressed, eat breakfast and go to her gymnastics club and enjoy the open gym time together (and Mama sleeps in, woo!). Today they came back and we got ready for a local Easter parade at a nearby shopping district. We were a little late for the actual parade, but local musicians were putting on some kid-friendly music and we enjoyed listening. We took a break and shopped for Thumbelina’s new shoes - she’s grown from a size 5 to a 6.5 seemingly overnight, so we went with a size 7 shoe and it’s funny how big her feet suddenly seem. We played on the indoor playground and visited a small petting zoo they set-up specifically for the event. Here’s a picture of Thumbelina looking at her favorite “moo-cow” and Topher “moo’ing” along with her.

Thumbelina enjoying the goats. (She thought they were sheep, so she was “baa’ing.”)

After her nap, we went for a walk at a nearby park with a trail. Thumbelina’s favorite past-time right now is jumping. She jumps everywhere, and often places she shouldn’t. I’m constantly swooping in to save her from near-catastrophe, so lately I’ve just been trying to find safe situations for her to jump to her heart’s content. Most of our walk was a series of jumping antics with daddy…

And, of course, TOPHER’s favorite past-time is using Thumbelina as a vaulting horse.

She always wants to explain to us “what just happened!” (it comes out as “whajuhipn”) whenever one of us is silly with her. “Daddy! Jump! Daddy! Jump!” (Oh, and she talks with her hands like the little half-Italian baby that she is. :) )

I am SO happy that Spring has arrived. Whew.

19
Mar

oh, life.

I’ve been absent from the bloggedy-blog-ba-dog (not sure where that came from…) this week, partially because a great deal of time has been occupied in supporting the vast consumerism of wedding preparation. Yay. As I’ve mentioned, we have a couple of friends’ nuptials quickly approaching. I realized the other day that we still needed several things, so a flurry of money-spending took place. We bought Thumbelina’s dresses (thankfully it occurred to me that she needs one for rehearsal dinners AND actual weddings - plus Easter). We were shopping at a particular store and she took me by the hand, led me all the way to the shoe section and hand-picked pink sparkle shoes. She’s worn them so frequently indoors now that she has blisters on every side of each foot and we’ve had to retire the glittery goods for awhile.

Gift registries, dress fittings, shoe shopping, make-up selection, hair preparation - you’d think I’m the actual bride instead of only a bridesmaid. My own wedding band actually resembles an engagement ring, with three stones on a platinum band, which apparently confuses people. A well-meaning saleslady literally grabbed my hand and oohed and ahhed over it, asking when the big day would happen, after I told her I needed to find a dress for a wedding rehearsal dinner. I gently explained that the toddler strapped to my back came along after the vows were spoken, nearly five years ago. “What! You can’t be married already? Seriously, for real?” I wasn’t quite sure how to take that comment… but, I did find a pretty dress.

I’ve spent much of the last week simply thinking. I received some very personal news last week that directly impacts my family and our life together. Despite the uncertainty in learning how to accept and deal with the challenge that has come our way, I’ve felt a great deal of peace in knowing that this week is the holiest week of the entire year. As Easter approaches, I feel God’s presence in our family life and I know that with His help, we will discern our response. But, it’s hard to blog about the everyday when a particular worry is blaring incessantly within one’s brain, so hopefully now that I’m a little more calm about the situation - which isn’t dire, and doesn’t involve health or employment or anything emergent - I can concentrate once again upon the simple blessings of our life and record them here, to remember for years to come.

13
Mar

a day at the park

We spent the entire afternoon at the park today, enjoying a gorgeous temperature of 75 degrees and plenty of sunshine. Yay! (It’s supposed to snow on Friday, of course.) We took bread and fed the ducks, ran back and forth endlessly over a bridge, walked along the path and chased leaves caught in the breeze. Thumbelina spent a good two hours on the play equipment. I have to carefully watch her when it comes to slides, though. She wants to walk down every slide - and vehemently protests any help - which means she nearly has an accident before she even gets started. It creates a few intense moments of diving across unsuspecting children to hastily grab her from potential disaster.

This particular park also has a miniature town, which Thumbelina loves, and today there were tons of kids playing due to local schools being out for Spring Break. I was impressed that many of the big boys were being careful to not trample the little ones. Thumbelina spent a great deal of time chasing them. :) There was even a moment where she got a little behind and couldn’t see which building they ran into next, and a little guy stuck his head out and said “Hey, we’re over here!” and she bounded over. So sweet! Moments like that melt a mama’s heart.

It’s amazing what warm weather and the promise of Spring can do for a person’s mood. Last night we went to a Master Gardener’s presentation put on for our parenting group and it’s gotten me so excited to start preparing for planting and growing. I’ve been looking up where to purchase heirloom seeds online tonight. Today in the car, just being able to roll the windows down and enjoy the breeze with the sun on my face and wind in my hair, good music blaring and Thumbelina humming along… it was really lovely.

10
Mar

a happy day - and yes, I’m “Happy” again

Our new parent educator from PAT came to visit today and I heart her! We had a great discussion about letting children develop at their own pace and not buying into the hysteria of societal expectations. She quickly understood Thumbelina’s temperament and was so supportive and encouraging about the way in which Topher and I are parenting. She also put Thumbelina’s speech delay into perspective for me and said that as important as it is to get early intervention, she is not so delayed that we should have any significant concern at the moment. Yay. A little validation is always reassuring.

Thumbelina hasn’t taken a nap today, and I’m beginning to notice a trend. A pattern that I so don’t want to be true! She seems to be nixing the habit of a nap, despite us even staying home and attempting to keep sacred the time in which she used to sleep peacefully. I’m hoping it has to do with being sick recently and sleeping too frequently - so maybe this is merely a rest hiatus. Because I really miss nap time - and she needs one, even if she doesn’t want one. She’d rather play.

Since sleeping wasn’t on the agenda, we baked an applesauce cake today. It is so yumtastic that I have to share the recipe in case anyone else wants to experience the goodness of “sauced apples” (as my sister used to call the jarred stuff). I found a basic recipe a few months ago, online somewhere, and tweaked it to fit our needs:

Applesauce Cake

1 c white flour

1.5 c whole wheat flour

1.5 tsp baking soda

.5 tsp baking powder

1 tsp sea salt

1 tsp cinnamon

1 tsp pumpkin pie spice

1.5 c sugar

1 stick melted salted butter

2 eggs

.5 c water

1.5 c applesauce

Melt butter, cream with sugar. Add water, applesauce and eggs. Combine flour, baking soda, baking powder, salt and spices in a separate bowl. Create a well in the dry ingredients, pour in wet. Mix well. Grease and flour a 9 x 13 pan, bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Let it cool before cutting - the cake is VERY moist. It’s also very sweet, so reducing the sugar is easily done (and what I’ll do next time - or replace with honey).

I woke up this morning and found all the crayons stuck neatly into our glass candle-holders on the kitchen table. It made me smile. I love Thumbelina’s penchant for re-purposing. Her ideas are more useful than mine most of the time, too.

(Thumbelina is entranced with this picture. She keeps coming up to the laptop and asking to see the cullies. So cute.)

06
Mar

can we please re-focus the creativity?

If I hear an “Oh, NO!” one more time…

Lately, whenever my back is turned, Thumbelina takes the opportunity to destroy something, usually with a crayon or marker. No matter how many times we talk about how crayons, markers, paints and pens being intended for paper - she continues to create masterpieces on the kitchen table or my unfinished armoire or the stairwell or her library books or the hardwood floor or anywhere else as the mood strikes. Usually when I turn around again, or walk into the room and discover her artwork in progress, she’ll gasp dramatically and say, “Oh, NO!” while pointing to the mess, as if very alarmed to discover the horror of such vandalism.

I was thinking yesterday as we sat, side by side, scrubbing the crayon off the trashcan, that in my pre-kid days I was so judgemental about parents who “let their kids run wild and destroy the house.” Because how hard could it be to keep track of crayons and a two year old? Right? And now I’m totally getting payback for all those thoughts. Even Topher temporarily struggled to ‘understand’ how she was managing to color over everything in the house.

“Why were the crayons in our bedroom?” he asked me, staring at the array of scribbles on our wooden dresser.

Um, what do you mean, why were the crayons in our bedroom? The crayons are EVERYWHERE. She sticks them in her diaper and strategically hoards them. I found some in the hamper yesterday. I pulled several markers out of the toilet earlier this week. She seems to intuitively know that I want to CONTROL the crayons and therefore she must.hide.them.

Occasionally, I claw my way down into the recesses of positivity and remind myself that I’m thrilled she loves to create. I am happy to have a child who is so curious and willing to see the world as her canvas… or I tell myself that, at least, when I’m admiring a shoe covered in black marker. Yesterday, I offered her a cup of water and a paintbrush to “paint” the house walls and she LOVED it. She seemed a bit miffed at first that once it dried, there wasn’t much to show for her effort, but it seemed to do the trick in at least giving her an opportunity to “cully” all over the house with Nah’s (I’m still “Nipple”) encouragement.

Yesterday also marked the first time that Thumbelina has ever fake-cried. I’m sick, again, and she waged a nap strike during what I hoped would be a much-anticipated rest. So, I climbed into our bed, pulled a basket of books onto the covers and asked if she’d like to read with me. This produced a series of growling protests, insisting that we go into her room to read books. Which normally is fine, but not on a day when I feel horrible and need to lay down. Finally she stopped her fussing and all was quiet, so I closed my eyes while she seemingly played with a doll nearby. Just as I was beginning to doze, I heard a muffled sob. I quickly sat up and reached for her, as she had her head buried in the covers, standing next to the bed. But when I grabbed her, she looked up and burst out laughing. Which so surprised me that I gasped and said, “Were you teasing Mommy?” and she nodded and collapsed in giggles. (And then I scared her with my congested cackling.)

03
Mar

*insert witty, sensical title here*

Thumbelina had her first tooth cleaning, and I was thrilled to find out from our wonderful, AP-friendly dentist that she doesn’t have any decay!!! I was so stressed about it because I’ve noticed a darkened line on one of her front teeth, which is the place where decay typically happens on breastfed toddlers (from what I’ve read). But she assured me that decay doesn’t happen in straight lines, and that it’s mostly likely related to the use of antibiotics during my pregnancy affecting her tooth development. So, I’ve shed any guilt about her still night-nursing so frequently.

Friday night, Topher came home a bit later from work than expected, so we spent a few minutes talking in the kitchen before he went to go change clothes and unwind. After which he stepped into the office, discovering the work of an industrious, opportunity-driven toddler…

We mentioned needing to clean up the mess, so while Topher lugged the vacuum up two flights of stairs, Thumbelina ran to the pantry and grabbed our broom. So helpful!

Topher was fantastically generous in allowing me to spend my entire Saturday at a combined bridal shower/lingerie shower/bachelorette party for a dear friend. It was great to see everyone and I’m so excited for the wedding! (I’ve never been away from Thumbelina for so long, but she and her daddy are such best buddies that they had a wonderful time together.) Sunday, my lovely husband let me sleep in until almost 11am and when I woke up, he suggested I go see “The Other Boleyn Girl” (since it came out this weekend and it represents one of my favorite historical fiction books). So I did, and I loved it. I came home just as Thumbelina was awakening from her nap, so we spent some time together and then went to evening mass as a family. It was a lovely weekend.

Speaking of Topher’s ever-so-wonderful-ness, he also taught me a trick this weekend for multi-tasking: laundry basket rides. He zoomed Thumbelina all over the house after getting a load of her clothes out of the dryer. He says it lets him get the laundry done while still technically holding her. Nice work.

So, as I was pulling in last night from the evening’s festivities, Thumbelina woke up for her usual middle-of-the-night nursing. She and Topher were laying in the middle of our family bed, having a chat. He did his best to distract her because she was starting to protest at having been denied nursing nah-nahs for so long at this point. He told me that when they both heard the garage door open, Topher asked her if she knew who was home now, and she sat up in bed and said “Nahs!” and then dashed off the bed to go greet me. Ha… Interestingly, she’s called me “Nah” all day today. I wonder if “Happy” has been replaced and I’m now named “Nipple” (aka “Nah”). At least I know what I’m good for, right?